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replacementparts) wrote2010-06-27 08:04 pm
replacementparts) wrote2010-06-27 08:04 pm
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discouraging
Gosh, this is discouraging. -__-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MktENiDIjoM
(Skyler was applying for a job and got a gender no-match letter, which so far has prevented him from getting rehired by a company he worked for previously under his old name. Apparently one has to have had Gender Reassignment Surgery in order to change your social security gender marker.)
more info- http://www.transequality.org/Resources/NoMatch_employees.pdf
I really want to get my state ID and stuff changed over as soon as possible, but I worry that will make it difficult for me to get other jobs in the future. Here's hoping I actually do have some job security here.
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Also, sometimes my job is very demoralizing. I should not have agreed to cover an extra shift, PARTICULARLY the one right between my other shifts. I haven't been home since friday, and because my supervisor forgot to make sure we had community activity money before going out of town for the weekend, we couldn't even break the monotony by going to see a movie or something. Sure, there may have been plenty of free activities available, but it is almost impossible to get A to go out and do ANYTHING and if it doesn't involve spending money, quite frankly, she ain't interested. And of course since she was bored all weekend despite my efforts, she was in a bad mood and in return ended up taking it out on S and myself. Me more than S, because she was smart enough to retreat into her room, whereas I didn't have that option.
I get to go home tomorrow at 9, but I have to be back here at 4pm for another shift. Tuesday morning can't come soon enough. -__-
A told me I was pretty while I was making dinner. She does that, periodically, and I always just grit my teeth and say thank you. This time she went on to tell me that she was picturing me in a dress and stockings and high heels. And telling me how I should get a pedicure or a manicure and get fake nails on. I know she doesn't know yet, I know it's a mistake of ignorance and not malice, I know she was even trying to be complimentary, but it still feels pretty awful, and makes me worry that even when she does know, she won't be accepting, at all.
Sorry for the emo, guys. I wish I was going to be sleeping in my own bed, tonight.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MktENiDIjoM
(Skyler was applying for a job and got a gender no-match letter, which so far has prevented him from getting rehired by a company he worked for previously under his old name. Apparently one has to have had Gender Reassignment Surgery in order to change your social security gender marker.)
more info- http://www.transequality.org/Resources/NoMatch_employees.pdf
I really want to get my state ID and stuff changed over as soon as possible, but I worry that will make it difficult for me to get other jobs in the future. Here's hoping I actually do have some job security here.
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Also, sometimes my job is very demoralizing. I should not have agreed to cover an extra shift, PARTICULARLY the one right between my other shifts. I haven't been home since friday, and because my supervisor forgot to make sure we had community activity money before going out of town for the weekend, we couldn't even break the monotony by going to see a movie or something. Sure, there may have been plenty of free activities available, but it is almost impossible to get A to go out and do ANYTHING and if it doesn't involve spending money, quite frankly, she ain't interested. And of course since she was bored all weekend despite my efforts, she was in a bad mood and in return ended up taking it out on S and myself. Me more than S, because she was smart enough to retreat into her room, whereas I didn't have that option.
I get to go home tomorrow at 9, but I have to be back here at 4pm for another shift. Tuesday morning can't come soon enough. -__-
A told me I was pretty while I was making dinner. She does that, periodically, and I always just grit my teeth and say thank you. This time she went on to tell me that she was picturing me in a dress and stockings and high heels. And telling me how I should get a pedicure or a manicure and get fake nails on. I know she doesn't know yet, I know it's a mistake of ignorance and not malice, I know she was even trying to be complimentary, but it still feels pretty awful, and makes me worry that even when she does know, she won't be accepting, at all.
Sorry for the emo, guys. I wish I was going to be sleeping in my own bed, tonight.
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I've been living with my old ID papers and stuff for several years. :/ But with the new decree, I should be able to correct than, when I have the money that is. They only ask for changes significant enough that you can't retract (which in itself is still stupid), so my T + chest surgery should suffice.
Regarding A., you should downright tell her that you're not that kind of person, though you don't have to tell her you're trans. But she should understand if you go something like "I'm not a feminine person/I don't want to look feminine/this isn't the way I envision myself/could you please not make those comments anymore because I'm not going to follow those advices anyway". Otherwise when she does know that you're a trans person, she's going to get very confused about the past mixed-signals, and THAT won't help her accept the fact. :)
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I'll probably end up posting about it later in more depth, but I heard back from Robin again today and they want to hold off discussing it with A and S until mid-August, when things will be less hectic around the office and it will be easier to devote the time to really helping them both understand. They sound very hopeful that they'll be able to explain it and deal with issues that may come up in a way that should allow me to keep working with them. =)
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