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Jun. 10th, 2010 09:20 amI keep picking up this book my roommate, Eira got. "True Selves- Understanding Transexualism" She's going to be sending it to her parents, soon, to help them understand her situation. So If I want to read it I need to hurry up.
I'm having a hard time relating to it. Maybe it would be easier if they used the right pronouns, but through the whole book they use birth pronouns and gendered names. And I hate it, even if in most other respects it does a good job of explaining things to 'families, friends, coworkers, and helping professionals.' That that one, simple, most basic courtesy is completely ignored just undermines all the good the book could do. At least in my mind.
I think what a lot of people fail to understand is that transgender people aren't 'girls who want to be boys' or 'boys who want to be girls.' We are men and women trapped from birth in BODIES of the opposite/wrong gender.
Forced, in most cases, into a society that expects us to behave according to certain gender stereotypes of that wrong gender. And oh my god society is cruel to those who fail to conform.
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I had kind of intended to write more about my history in this post but I'm in a foul mood compared to saturday-tuesday and everything I've been writing looks incredibly snarky and grumpy to me so I'll save it.
I'm having a hard time relating to it. Maybe it would be easier if they used the right pronouns, but through the whole book they use birth pronouns and gendered names. And I hate it, even if in most other respects it does a good job of explaining things to 'families, friends, coworkers, and helping professionals.' That that one, simple, most basic courtesy is completely ignored just undermines all the good the book could do. At least in my mind.
I think what a lot of people fail to understand is that transgender people aren't 'girls who want to be boys' or 'boys who want to be girls.' We are men and women trapped from birth in BODIES of the opposite/wrong gender.
Forced, in most cases, into a society that expects us to behave according to certain gender stereotypes of that wrong gender. And oh my god society is cruel to those who fail to conform.
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I had kind of intended to write more about my history in this post but I'm in a foul mood compared to saturday-tuesday and everything I've been writing looks incredibly snarky and grumpy to me so I'll save it.
